PSA

[author_by_night]

People who use their friends lists to comment in other people's LJs complaining about their posts... well, that's just a really catty thing to do. On so many levels.

Is all.


(Note: Flisters, I don't mean any of you. So no worries.)

Comments

[ginny-toxic.livejournal.com]

I have one friend irl that reads my lj regularly, and with how much I complain about the people in my life on it, I feel awkward since I have some complaints of her I would normally be posted in my lj (nothing I wouldn't also say to her face, just stuff I'd be interested in other's opinions on). So I just end up not posting about it usually.

[author-by-night.livejournal.com]

Perhaps out of context, my post doesn't make sense.

Really the problem was that someone I know of was using the friends lists of her flisters to link to a post that discussed a particular LJ pet peeve.

So, basically, it's to the equivalent of if I was reading updates from your friends, and saw that one of them used the word "u" for "you" in her entry... and decided to link to another LJ post discussing why netspeak is annoying. It would be putting you, as a mutual friend of ours, in an awkward position, and it's also butting into something that would be none of my business.

I hear you though. I have problems like that on Facebook, TBH - my family's on it now, so it's not like I can mention them without filtering. And while I do filter my notes, I'm still paranoid that somehow there'll be a glitch.

[ginny-toxic.livejournal.com]

I kind of got what you were saying, but didn't have any easy references to bring up and felt like talking about myself (and that issue has been on my mind lately, but as mentioned, I can't just post about it in my LJ so I figure, taking over your post would work just as well ;) )

But I generally try not to say anything in my LJ about someone that I wouldn't be willing to say it to their face. Not that I haven't ALWAYS done that, but it's been serving me well for the most part. (now, if I actually say said things to their face isn't important, it's if I'd be willing to).

Haha. my mom is friends with me and my brother on facebook. So there has been a lot of drama with her like, spying on his facebook or something, since he's made changes with intentionally not letting it go to the feed things, but she'll still go off on him about them (latest one being him changing his religious status to athiest. didnt' go down well).

[diana-molloy.livejournal.com]

filters are your friend in these situations!

[ginny-toxic.livejournal.com]

That's just feel too much like talking behind a friend's back lol.

[diana-molloy.livejournal.com]

Haha. I have a lot of rl friends on lj and some big drama happened recently and honestly it would have not been right to let them see it but I needed to get it down, so I removed our mutual friends and them so i could freely discuss it.