More blogging: The Trouble of Hufflepuffs
Nov. 15th, 2013 04:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Despite the title, this has little to do with Harry Potter, except the House from which my classification derives. Also, because tone on the internet doesn't always translate, I'm not being emo here, just introspective. (And for the record? I'm a Hufflepuff.)
Hufflepuffs are hesitant to let go of things. They're often nostalgic, sometimes in healthy ways, but also occasionally in ways that aren't. They want things to be what was known to them as the common rule, as something that held them and those they cared about together. Thanksgiving traditions matter, and when they break, Hufflepuffs think about those moments. When old friends come into town, they want to meet at the Starbucks, and when their friends all say they hate Starbucks now, and anyway, they're only really in town for family, it's a hard pill for them to swallow.
They're belongers, not in the sense that they want to impress, but in the sense that they love where they are. They may hate it, but they still love it. They will work at a job they'd rather not have, but be damned, they make it work for them. They show up. They work overtime despite not getting overtime. When nobody else wants to, they don't understand. As for commitments? Hufflepuffs stick to them. If you tell a Hufflepuff to be there at 8, they're there at 8. If you're running late, expect a call or text message: "Are we still meeting here?" And heaven forbid you change plans at the last minute. Hufflepuffs will get disappointed by this. That isn't to say they don't sometimes break their own rules - often they do, and hate themselves a little for it. . For the most part, they keep to their word. They're exceedingly loyal, but can be a little unforgiving if they feel you've broken a rule.
It can be hard being a Hufflepuff, for these reasons. What Hufflepuffs need to understand is that they HAVE broken their own rules - and that's okay. To err is human. It's good for things to change, if a bit sad for everyone (Hufflepuffs mourn louder and closer, but everyone misses something). People sometimes let you down, but don't realize they have. The world will move on. But it's hard when you mean things when others don't, when you love so much in a cynical world, when you want things to work and nobody else cares - or rather, they care, but not as you do.
It's often great to be a Hufflepuff. Great things aren't always easy.
Hufflepuffs are hesitant to let go of things. They're often nostalgic, sometimes in healthy ways, but also occasionally in ways that aren't. They want things to be what was known to them as the common rule, as something that held them and those they cared about together. Thanksgiving traditions matter, and when they break, Hufflepuffs think about those moments. When old friends come into town, they want to meet at the Starbucks, and when their friends all say they hate Starbucks now, and anyway, they're only really in town for family, it's a hard pill for them to swallow.
They're belongers, not in the sense that they want to impress, but in the sense that they love where they are. They may hate it, but they still love it. They will work at a job they'd rather not have, but be damned, they make it work for them. They show up. They work overtime despite not getting overtime. When nobody else wants to, they don't understand. As for commitments? Hufflepuffs stick to them. If you tell a Hufflepuff to be there at 8, they're there at 8. If you're running late, expect a call or text message: "Are we still meeting here?" And heaven forbid you change plans at the last minute. Hufflepuffs will get disappointed by this. That isn't to say they don't sometimes break their own rules - often they do, and hate themselves a little for it. . For the most part, they keep to their word. They're exceedingly loyal, but can be a little unforgiving if they feel you've broken a rule.
It can be hard being a Hufflepuff, for these reasons. What Hufflepuffs need to understand is that they HAVE broken their own rules - and that's okay. To err is human. It's good for things to change, if a bit sad for everyone (Hufflepuffs mourn louder and closer, but everyone misses something). People sometimes let you down, but don't realize they have. The world will move on. But it's hard when you mean things when others don't, when you love so much in a cynical world, when you want things to work and nobody else cares - or rather, they care, but not as you do.
It's often great to be a Hufflepuff. Great things aren't always easy.
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Date: 2013-11-16 03:22 am (UTC)You can say that again.
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Date: 2013-11-16 10:08 am (UTC)But it's hard when you mean things when others don't, when you love so much in a cynical world, when you want things to work and nobody else cares - or rather, they care, but not as you do.
Oh, this. So very much.
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Date: 2013-11-16 02:26 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2013-11-18 01:29 pm (UTC)And wow, that Marney letter is...interesting. I'm Australian, so we don't celebrate Thanksgiving, but everyone in my extended family contributes something to Christmas dinners, and I'm glad we're more flexible than that.
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Date: 2013-11-16 01:25 pm (UTC)