We're not great at being social in general, but when it comes to my friends, we consciously avoid going into that "no one exists but us" mode.
I think there's definitely a big difference between not being social and being in "nobody else exists" mode. :) Honestly, I can see myself being with someone who, like me, isn't overly outgoing and has a small circle of friends - at the same time, the friends we have need to be a priority too.
The couple in your bookclub sounds extremely rude. I'm glad they stopped being invited.
and it often felt like we were intruding on their date. So annoying.
And that's what gets on my nerves. I know sometimes it probably is me, but I do think there's couples who act like you're being intrusive, which makes no sense to me. If the issue is that your SO doesn't want to be there, don't bring your SO.* If the issue is that you want to do more "couples things" that don't involve other people, don't even go to that thing. If you're just a clingy couple... well, we all have flaws, but we all have to work on them, right? Sigh.
* Or tell your SO to get over it, depending on the situation.
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Date: 2009-12-09 10:16 pm (UTC)I think there's definitely a big difference between not being social and being in "nobody else exists" mode. :) Honestly, I can see myself being with someone who, like me, isn't overly outgoing and has a small circle of friends - at the same time, the friends we have need to be a priority too.
The couple in your bookclub sounds extremely rude. I'm glad they stopped being invited.
and it often felt like we were intruding on their date. So annoying.
And that's what gets on my nerves. I know sometimes it probably is me, but I do think there's couples who act like you're being intrusive, which makes no sense to me. If the issue is that your SO doesn't want to be there, don't bring your SO.* If the issue is that you want to do more "couples things" that don't involve other people, don't even go to that thing. If you're just a clingy couple... well, we all have flaws, but we all have to work on them, right? Sigh.
* Or tell your SO to get over it, depending on the situation.