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Writer's Block: Everybody hurts
Aug. 29th, 2011 07:50 am[Error: unknown template qotd]
Even the bullies were bullied, quite honestly.
I only felt physically threatened once, and I still have no idea what that was about but sort of want to know. I was in the girl's bathroom, and out of nowhere realized another girl was practically in my face glaring at me. Completely out of the blue. I threw out the paper towels and bolted out of there. All I can think is that either she'd asked me to leave and I hadn't heard, she just felt like threatening a sixth grader, or she had some other issues.
As for what I did about verbal and emotional bullying... I followed the advice of my guidance counselors, only either they gave the worst advice ever, I did it wrong, or sometimes teens are just cruel and will bully no matter what. I think it's mostly two and three, although I do think my guidance counselors sometimes gave pretty generic advice that showed they really weren't... in touch with their students. I mean, my friend's Mom had to come into the school and fight for them - and believe me, she didn't want to be a helicopter Mom, but the counselor disregarded every single thing they said.
However, I think a lot of the advice they gave me actually did work occasionally - it was just that often I either did it wrong or kids knew right away what I was doing and didn't want to let it work. And some of them really were helpful... or at least wanted to be. But at the end of the day, the high school guidance counselors were there for SAT, ACT, PSAT and college stuff, so they weren't really all that helpful in other areas. Middle school... I think a lot of stuff just got chalked up to hormones and being a teenybopper. Which is valid, but still. That is just my experience though - and even then, like I said that wasn't even all of the ones I had or encountered.
Even the bullies were bullied, quite honestly.
I only felt physically threatened once, and I still have no idea what that was about but sort of want to know. I was in the girl's bathroom, and out of nowhere realized another girl was practically in my face glaring at me. Completely out of the blue. I threw out the paper towels and bolted out of there. All I can think is that either she'd asked me to leave and I hadn't heard, she just felt like threatening a sixth grader, or she had some other issues.
As for what I did about verbal and emotional bullying... I followed the advice of my guidance counselors, only either they gave the worst advice ever, I did it wrong, or sometimes teens are just cruel and will bully no matter what. I think it's mostly two and three, although I do think my guidance counselors sometimes gave pretty generic advice that showed they really weren't... in touch with their students. I mean, my friend's Mom had to come into the school and fight for them - and believe me, she didn't want to be a helicopter Mom, but the counselor disregarded every single thing they said.
However, I think a lot of the advice they gave me actually did work occasionally - it was just that often I either did it wrong or kids knew right away what I was doing and didn't want to let it work. And some of them really were helpful... or at least wanted to be. But at the end of the day, the high school guidance counselors were there for SAT, ACT, PSAT and college stuff, so they weren't really all that helpful in other areas. Middle school... I think a lot of stuff just got chalked up to hormones and being a teenybopper. Which is valid, but still. That is just my experience though - and even then, like I said that wasn't even all of the ones I had or encountered.
