I think a lot of it was down to people being a lot younger, and people still not really sure how to be a community/friends in online spaces, and the combination of those two things led to a lot of confusion and nastiness.
Oh, for sure! I think that was exactly the problem here, for everyone. There were a few things I left out precisely because while at the time they upset me, now I can see where the whole thing was a very nuanced situation. Honestly, even the guy - I can see how maybe he felt that because we shared fandom mutuals, he had to respond to my MSN messages, but at the same time didn't really want to talk to me... so he said something mean in what was only ever meant to be a private conversation instead.
So yeah, while it was a very upsetting experience, I do see how there was nuance, even with him.
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Date: 2024-01-20 04:42 pm (UTC)Oh, for sure! I think that was exactly the problem here, for everyone. There were a few things I left out precisely because while at the time they upset me, now I can see where the whole thing was a very nuanced situation. Honestly, even the guy - I can see how maybe he felt that because we shared fandom mutuals, he had to respond to my MSN messages, but at the same time didn't really want to talk to me... so he said something mean in what was only ever meant to be a private conversation instead.
So yeah, while it was a very upsetting experience, I do see how there was nuance, even with him.