I can see where it's tough to disengage from people and it is a bit of a learned skill. It still is super rude to keep on talking to someone so they think things are fine and you're forming a friendship and then behind their back you're telling people that you think the person who you have been talking with is annoying. That's just not an okay way to deal with people. It's cruel. I've definitely had situations like that where I've been left feeling like I did something wrong and with my own age and maturation have realized that no, if someone was talking to me like we were friends there was no way I could have known that they actually didn't want to spend the time with me.

I do think there are things in Twilight that warrant discussion with younger readers. Like it's not actually romantic that Edward sneaks in her room to watch her sleep, it's creepy. Also, there's a lot of shaming of sexual desire that's absolutely what I call sneaky Mormonism in the books because none of the characters are portrayed as being Mormon but they hold strong values that are. My students pointed out that when the high school kids have a party they're having juice and cookies in someone's house and just hanging out and they were like "that's not like when we have a party." It was a great opening to talk about why the author is choosing to portray teenagers in that way because they're right, that's not how all high school parties go.

That said I think everyone has likely read some questionable things. I grew up in an era where V.C. Andrews was the popular author to read in junior high. Those books were a world of inappropriate for me but I came through okay.