Snowflake Challenge #2 (Public entry)

[author_by_night]

 In your own space, set yourself some goals for the coming year. They can be fannish or not, public or private.

I think one all-encompassing goal is to not let myself get wrapped up in other people's lives. Here's the thing: I'm both obsessed with keeping the peace and making sure everyone's comfort level is at the maximum level, and highly opinionated. (Though ironically, sometimes just wanting everyone to be happy is why I'm irritable and/or opinionated. It's interesting.) So outside I'm going "yeah girl, you do you!!!", inside I'm grappling with whether or not to say something.  I've gotten much better, but I do need to work towards just letting things be.

Fannish goals, I think maybe giving more fanfics a chance when I have the time. I can be pickier than I like to admit, again on being opinionated, but I think that's meant I've missed out. Honestly, the same is true of all media. I've almost missed out on things I ended up loving because I was dismissive. And fanfic is free. It's a little more understandable to want to hold off on buying something if I have mixed feelings, but it costs nothing to give a fanfic a shot.
 





 

Comments

[bleodswean]

sometimes just wanting everyone to be happy is why I'm irritable and/or opinionated

This. Absolutely! I always feel very alone in this experience and for me, the next phase of this is just tears. ugh.

Best of luck with your goals!

[author_by_night]

Thanks!

I think a lot of people have this problem. And yes, the tears. Blah.

[pebbleinalake]

And fanfic is free. It's a little more understandable to want to hold off on buying something if I have mixed feelings, but it costs nothing to give a fanfic a shot.

I need to get into this mindset as well. I skip over most fanfics unless the summary and/or tags really grab my attention. Might add a fanfic reading goal to my own list.

Your goals sound really well thought out and I wish you the best of luck with accomplishing them!

[author_by_night]

Thank you!

I think it's tricky because yeah, you should just read what you want to read, but I think we all have preferences that might mean we're missing out.

[delphi]

Those both sound like great goals, in my opinion.

[author_by_night]

Thanks!

[tellshannon815]

Yes, I definitely get that first one, one of mine is to do with the fact that while I also desire to keep the peace, for my own mental health I can't step in with my family (Uncle "Dudley D" has been barely speaking to the other two siblings for the last 4 years, my cousin's husband has been trying to persuade them to reconcile, but after past experiences of being expected to be go between against my will I can't do it any more).

[author_by_night]

*Hugs*

[sabethea]

I'm both obsessed with keeping the peace and making sure everyone's comfort level is at the maximum level, and highly opinionated

Oh gods, me too! It’s awful. I also have horrible anxiety and think I’m wrong all the time or think that everyone else will think I’m wrong anyway, but I still sometimes feel the need to say something and then it sounds like I think I’m so difficult, and I’m not, I want everyone to be happy (and not cross with me) but… ugh.

Um… I hear you, is what I mean.

[author_by_night]

*Hugs*

Yeah, and sometimes if someone reacts badly when I DO let my opinion be known, I convince myself I said something wrong. Which even if I did, is not the end of the world, but also, people are going to react and... yeah. I dunno. Anxiety.

[sabethea]

So much this. I could’ve written all of this.

[yalumesse]

Oh man, I hear you about being picky with fanfics. Depending on what fandom/ship/tropes I'm after, there's either a glut of them that would take a solid week just to skim summaries, mark for later, and keep browsing, resulting in several months of fics waiting to be read, half of which aren't fully enjoyable, or once I've set all the Exclude tags for stuff I don't enjoy, there's a dozen left and none are fully satisfying. How to find the balance between too picky, or not picky enough?

(It's not 100% free though - trying out fanfics takes time, and we only have so much of it, so some level of pickiness is needed, so I allow myself to nope out of them as soon as I'm not enjoying them anymore.)

[author_by_night]

(It's not 100% free though - trying out fanfics takes time, and we only have so much of it, so some level of pickiness is needed, so I allow myself to nope out of them as soon as I'm not enjoying them anymore.)


That's a good point.

[lunabee34]

Cheerleads!

[author_by_night]

Thanks!

[elizalavelle]

I struggle so much with the "you do you!" when I see people doing things that are just not wise (see all of Covid) so I love that goal and can definitely see the challenge in it.

I wish you many fun fanfics!

[pianogurl330]

I can totally relate to the first one!

Good Luck with your goals!