I totally agree. And one can be a feminist and still want to have a relationship. I know that I am very happy with my life (divorced, no kids). Society really doesn't know how to categorize us happy singles, especially if you don't have kids. That's one reason I have developed friendships with diverse people. On the other hand, I have never felt left out when doing things with the friends that I have had for years. Many of these friends are people that I went to high school with and they married other people from our school (a very small school, less than 400 kids). So I'm not just friends with the wife, but also with the husband. That may partly be due to knowing each other as singles in high school before dating and marriage took place.

I also think the media plays a big roll in our perception of the holidays. You never see the single person eating a TV dinner in front of the TV in a Christmas ad. We all want the "perfect" Christmas. It can be especially difficult for a single person because there is no SO or kids in the picture. Don't think that will change anytime soon, though.