Something I consider incredibly rude which wasn't mentioned is discussing a scene with a writing partner and agreeing on how it's going to go, and then doing something completely different within the scene itself. And then compounding the rudeness is refusing to back up and redo it, especially with an assertion that "the character can't forget what happened" and therefore it has to stand, no matter how badly they messed over said writing partner. That's a lame excuse IMO and just compounds rudeness with insult.
Also rude is making an appointment for live scening and then flaking on it without a very good excuse. I mean, OK, real life happens and if someone's kid starts choking or something then that's an excellent reason for blowing off an appointment and I'll be sympathetic later when they get around to telling me about it. But I don't hang out in chat every night -- I'm only there when I have an appointment with someone, and when I'm there I'm either scening or chatting or just hanging out waiting for someone to show up. The third option is incredibly boring and a waste of my time and it annoys me when it's not for a VERY good reason. If someone never shows, or shows up an hour late, and just sort of shrugs and doesn't have a good reason and can't be bothered to apologize, that person goes on my "Don't Scene With" list.
Related to the above, someone who's in the middle of a live chat and just wanders off without letting their scening partner(s) know ahead of time. "My five-year-old started shrieking," is a good reason to lunge up from the computer and run. "I had to change my baby," or "The phone rang" are not, because neither of these is so dire or immediate that one can't type at least a "BRB--baby" or "BRB--phone" before leaving. Going suddenly silent for forty minutes or more and then coming back in and saying, "Oh, someone knocked at the door and we had to talk about X" just isn't acceptable IMO. Maybe it's because I'm a crotchety old broad, but that's how I feel.
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Something I consider incredibly rude which wasn't mentioned is discussing a scene with a writing partner and agreeing on how it's going to go, and then doing something completely different within the scene itself. And then compounding the rudeness is refusing to back up and redo it, especially with an assertion that "the character can't forget what happened" and therefore it has to stand, no matter how badly they messed over said writing partner. That's a lame excuse IMO and just compounds rudeness with insult.
Also rude is making an appointment for live scening and then flaking on it without a very good excuse. I mean, OK, real life happens and if someone's kid starts choking or something then that's an excellent reason for blowing off an appointment and I'll be sympathetic later when they get around to telling me about it. But I don't hang out in chat every night -- I'm only there when I have an appointment with someone, and when I'm there I'm either scening or chatting or just hanging out waiting for someone to show up. The third option is incredibly boring and a waste of my time and it annoys me when it's not for a VERY good reason. If someone never shows, or shows up an hour late, and just sort of shrugs and doesn't have a good reason and can't be bothered to apologize, that person goes on my "Don't Scene With" list.
Related to the above, someone who's in the middle of a live chat and just wanders off without letting their scening partner(s) know ahead of time. "My five-year-old started shrieking," is a good reason to lunge up from the computer and run. "I had to change my baby," or "The phone rang" are not, because neither of these is so dire or immediate that one can't type at least a "BRB--baby" or "BRB--phone" before leaving. Going suddenly silent for forty minutes or more and then coming back in and saying, "Oh, someone knocked at the door and we had to talk about X" just isn't acceptable IMO. Maybe it's because I'm a crotchety old broad, but that's how I feel.
Angie